CALLING IN THE ONE
Love is something, as a collective, we all strive to “achieve” or “gain”. Especially when looking for a partner, which is always a hot topic of conversation and something most humans feel is the end goal or Dream. With many dating apps and online dating being the normal approach to meeting someone, we seem to have come so far from the natural flow of life and how we meet those, already destined to be in our lives.
Love was, for a period of my life, a very difficult subject for me. As a child, I was very open and loving; but over the years of growing into an adult, I had begun to shut off from the beauty of what Love is, in many aspects. Somehow, I found myself on a path oriented towards healing and love. It’s been a very lonely, painful and challenging journey during certain times, but watching the petals of my heart space open has been one of the most beautiful experiences of this human experience. Here are some of my findings along this ever-expanding, never-ending and glorious path…
Magnets. What we push for, will repel away. Like magnets, what is meant for us, will inevitably be drawn to us, but when we feel that “we don’t yet have it” we’re constantly in a state of lack or searching for that feeling of contentment. Love is not something to be achieved, grasped for or desired, but to be truly felt in the heart as a belief, a way of viewing the world. Nowadays, serial dating and endless swiping have created such a deep focus on finding the perfect partner, that love has become unattainable and technology has taken over our inner compass, of intuition and feeling.
Self love. Of all relationships, the ones we have with ourselves are the most important. We make ourselves vessels for the love that we wish to receive, by first pouring that love into ourselves. If we are constantly outwardly searching for the love we are desperately seeking, how do we ever expect to find it, if we think we are already without? When we take the time to first understand what love is, what we need in order to receive love and how can we also give love, we come to see all the ways in which love is already present in our lives and thus, attracts more to us. We find more clarity around what love can and should be. And when choosing to act in kindness and compassion with numero uno, we set the bar high for the amount of love that can be received and transmitted, ultimately leading us to the state of unconditional love. Acknowledge that you are already all that you need – someone else is just a complementary addition to the adventure, not the completion of you or love. By becoming Love; we attract the same, like a magnet!
Doing the work. We cannot expect the other to heal us. That is our duty. We cannot expect the other to fulfil our needs when we cannot even do that for ourselves. When we begin to work on ourselves, we break down barriers, we push past limitations and we begin to strip down the ego that causes us separation. By completing our Spiritual work, we can move past many blocks that might come along the pathway, by recentering always to love we don’t push away what is truly meant for us.
As Rumi says, “your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built around it“. So, collapse the walls, break down the bolted doors and open yourself to the love that is waiting for you.
Be grateful for what was; what is and what will be. Finding daily reasons to be grateful is always a good choice to improve mindset and everyday experiences, but when we are practising gratitude in an affirmative way and also in past tense we can begin to create the intention to things that we want to enter our lives. “Thank you for the deep love, connection and profound beauty I experience with my partner”… by creating a belief, we manifest.
Choose Love over everything else. Every situation and encounter is a chance to choose love. To operate from a space of compassion, forgiveness and acceptance. These are qualities that are so deeply beneficial when we enter into a partnership with someone else. Although it may be hard to push past the limitations of the ego, to choose to respond rather than react and to move away from ancestral conditioning; we can repattern ourselves to find love in all situations. Operate from love always and keep choosing love over and over again, until it is your very way.
Once we have become love, we… create space and surrender. If we do not choose to create space, how can we expect someone to join us? There will be no time, energy or way of another entering into your life. Space is found when we let go. Surrendering into all that is. So, we let go of restrictive belief systems; fear; conditioning; lack and we embrace – holding space for all that enters our lives. Behind the control and struggle, the ultimate love, peace and happiness are calling us forth. When we drop the need for control or force, and surrender to the power of the universal flow, we start to see the way in which we are all woven together into this fabric of life. What is meant for us won’t miss us; drop the fear and flow.
Be open to receiving. When we are open to receiving, after we have created the space for what we truly want to call into our lives, we are able to fully accept that which is making its way to us. If we make space for love, unity and joy, but aren’t able to fully receive or accept it, then how are we ever going to embrace all that life has in store for us?
Get vulnerable. By becoming vulnerable, receptive and unconditional in our love and gratitude, the blessings and opportunities to love and connect and expand our lives multiplies tenfold.
Be patient. How do you know it’s true love? Because you feel free and at home at the same time (Yung Pueblo quote). True love is not questioned, there is a deep knowing and understanding of the other and from deep within your body. When your body overrides the ego and the thinking mind is completely disregarded; you know you have found the right path, you have found your home. Everything around will support your journey. When you find the place where every single thing you see tells you to stay, you know you have found The One.
“Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward in the same direction”
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
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